We are here on the Wheel. Again and yet again, it is pointed out that Yule is a lesser “holiday” for pagans and not such a huge deal as the Christian Christmas has become. There are many websites which will explain all the ways in which pagan traditions were taken to make up the traditions that manifest at Christmas, the tree, the Holly King, the sweets, the mistletoe and more. I’m not one to repeat all that here.
Yule is important because it marks the longest night of the year. The days have gradually become shorter until winter arrives and while Winter is nowhere near done, Yule marks the promise that Light will reign again. From this day forward, each day will become a bit longer, the light will last longer. It’s a promise of Spring and Summer that seem so far away.
These days, it’s easy to forget that. We have electricity and furnaces and food in plenty. At this time of year, I am always amazed that in older times, people would have such faith in the turning of the seasons that they would feast on the darkest of days. Think about it.
Their homes were drafty and cold. Even when the harvests were good, they didn’t have the means to store food like we do. Their lives depended on what they had stored from the harvest and what the men could hunt. On December 21st, they still had the coldest months of January and February to depend upon their food stores then March before they saw a hint of fresh herbs growing wild. Game was scarce. Animals stuck close to their dens and men close to their fires. Yet, every year, from the humblest of towns
to the high halls of the lords
the lady of the house would take stock of her stores and lay out a feast for Yule. What faith that must have taken! To use the best of what you had to celebrate the coming of Light when you could not know if you would have enough to last through the coldest months!
That is the magic of Yule for me, that incredibly enduring Faith. I am always mindful of it as this season comes. I wonder that it does not get “lost” in our mad scramble for gifts and decorations. I try to take time to reflect on what really matters, not what gifts I can buy but what gifts I can give, of my time, my love, stories, food and just sharing good energy. Call old friends, forgive someone, laugh with children, share joy and light, the riches you have and have faith that these are things you will not run out of.
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Celebrate the birth of the child of Light
Have you ever fell in love with a piece of jewelry, bought it, then did not like it when you wore it? It seemed so right at the shop but when you actually put it on, it looked all wrong?
The type of jewelry you should wear will depend upon your face shape. I’m going to do a 3 part series of posts about fashion and face shapes. I’ll give you a face type, tell you what sort of jewelry goes best with that specific face type and show you some examples.
Guys! this will be a HUGE help when you are trying to decide what to buy for the ladies in your life. And for everyone else, it’s not just your own shape you should consider, but an aid when choosing gifts for moms, friends, daughters and that Secret Santa gift you need for the job. I thought this time of year would be a great time to discuss gift giving help but actually, we need gifts all year long.
Let’s start with both round and square shape faces. We have the same goal with both…..to make the face appear longer, not wider, to draw the eye up and down instead of horizontal.
To draw the glance vertically we want long dangly earrings. chandelier earrings are great for this. Triangle shaped earrings are good if the wide part of the triangle is at the top and the slim point is at the bottom. If you have a curve, make sure it faces inward, not outward. Long drops, tassels, and dangling chains are good. Diamond shapes are fine as long as the diamonds are long and thin, not like inverted squares. It also helps if there is a bead drop from the bottom of the diamond.
these brushed copper and glass earl earrings are great for a round face, long and dangly and the heart shape just accents the vertical gaze
These moonstone dangles are great for a square face, the length draws the eye vertically and the round silver bezels soften the line of the jaw.
Keep the neckline of your clothing in mind when you choose necklaces. Don’t buy turtlenecks for ladies with short necks or round or square faced. They crowd the chin and bring the eye right back up topside. We want it going up and down remember? You want a neckline that pulls the eye downward toward the bosoms so avoid boat necks which pull the eye side to side.
Scoop necklines are great for pulling the eyes down. Ladies with square faces look best with a rounded scoop neck. The curve of the neckline will soften the lines of the jaw.
Round faces seem to have more definition with a square scoop neck.
When choosing necklaces, do not buy pieces that are very short, like chokers or collars. they crowd the face. Choose pieces that are over 20 inches long. Long dangly pendants are best. They bring the eye downward. Avoid large chunky beads near the face or layers of chain. Assemblages pieces are not ideal. Large amounts of eye interest across the neck will take the eye horizontally again. The best assemblage pieces will feature a minimal assembly with dangling charms.
A great piece for either type face but especially square. The oval shape of the pendant lengthens the face while the feminine ribbon and minimal amount of beads will soften the lines.
A half hang necklace with its symmetrical curves which features a beautiful focal is a great addition for both these necklines and these face types. A round face would want a focal that is not round but oval or rectangular. Ditto the square face type. Square faces want soft curves Triangle shapes are also great. Again, dangles from the focal do no harm.
Cowl necks are also great. And they are wonderful for displaying long dangly earrings!
Tube tops in summer and strapless dressy dresses are also fine. Attention is taken from the face and downward. Wear simple pendants on chain or cord or boho style pieces.
V-necks are perfect for both face types, again, focusing the eye downward. For V-necks, you do not want elaborate pieces but simpler types of beautiful pendants that you want to show off.
Here is one other thing to consider when selecting gifts. Size matters! Larger ladies will not look best in tiny delicate pieces. The piece will “get lost”, appear too small. Fuller figured ladies can wear beautiful bold pieces with no problem at all and bold chains and dramatic beads. Yaaaay
One last thing. If you “like” my facebook page, you can check out more types of jewelry to get better ideas. I’ve created special albums for face types with examples of pieces that look well with specific face types. It will be easier than checking back with this blog when you go shopping. If you subscribe to this blog and email me that you did, I’ll email you 2 downloadable charts that will help you choose pieces both for yourself and others.
October’s brilliant foliage is but a memory, the bright leaves of autumn lie brown and damp on the ground. The view from my window is bare tree and grey sky most days, the earth damp and brown.
Days are long (and mostly wet here in Ohio) and nights come early. The chill outside makes the nights perfect for curling up with a great book or snuggling with your furry friends. Nosey loves to perch on the arm of my chair and as soon as I start petting him, Vato puts his head on my lap and wants attention given to his ears. It’s also perfect weather for a warm fire if you are lucky enough to have a fireplace and for twinkling candles. It’s the quiet time between wiccan festivals, a time of turning within. It’s also perfect for fire magic. Whether warm fireplace embers or candle burning, flames have always been powerfully magical. Fire enhances visualizations, meditations, divination and spellwork.
I like to get my candles ready after Samhain. They need to be “dressed” (with the appropriate oil) and stored wrapped in white linen cloth until I want to use them. I like to make house blessing candles and healing candles for winter “blahs” and negativity and maybe a money or prosperity candle just for that extra increase I need for the season. A great gift for a friend is a tranquility candle to help with the stresses of the holiday season. Use a light blue candle and put it on a white dish surrounded by blue chalcedony stones.
Even if you are not pagan, you can empower candles with magical energy. Magic, after all, is simply enhancing the possibilities. Choose the right color candle for what you want.
White = purity, truth, spirituality
Red = strength, love, energy, courage, passion
Blue = peace, tranquility, understanding, patience, health
Natural = all purpose, purification
Green = prosperity, fertility, luck
Yellow/Gold = mental clarity, success, concentration
Brown = grounding, centering, neutrality
Pink = affection, romance, friendship
Black = protection, ward off negativity
Purple = meditation, clairvoyance, power
Silver/Gray = cancellation, neutrality, stalemate
Orange = encouragement, adaptability, stimulation, attraction
To “dress” a candle, take olive oil between your thumb and forefinger and rub it on the candle from the middle to the tip, then from the middle to the bottom, visualizing the energy that you want to happen. Pagans will certainly have natural oils or herbs to add to the olive oil to increase the energy.
When you burn it, be alone, have soft music playing if you want, visualize what you want to happen. If you want a tranquility candle, for instance, visualize peaceful scenes, a harmonious home, serene scenes. If you want, you can make up your own little rhyme or mantra, it does not have to be elaborate. When you have done this once, the candle is “charged” and each time you burn it, the energy radiates outward. Oh, and don’t toss away your candle stubs into the trash. You can reuse them to make new candles.
The end of November brings the Thanksgiving celebration. No matter what your religion, you can take one day to gather with friends and family to celebrate the blessings in your life. For some, this is the start of their shopping season, the mad search for gifts. For me, it is the end of the gift search. Mine have been set aside and are ready to be wrapped.
With luck, we may get a soft dusting of snow on Thanksgiving Day. Where I grew up, in New York, Thanksgiving Day was considered especially blessed if we got an inch of snow. Hunting season had started and the men would hunt until noon while the women cooked. The snow made it easier to track. For those of you who think hunting is but a cruel sport, you have never spent a long winter with very little food except what was brought in from the woods, the gardens and the streams we fished in summer. There were plenty of times when that venison in the freezer made the difference between something and nothing on our plates. Winter is sometimes the time of layoffs for people. Back then, Food Stamps were not an option. People made do with what they had, what they could hunt and fish and grow.
November is a good time for counting blessings, relaxing and rejuvenating as the Wheel of the Year turns. Enjoy!